I accidentally typed "Why Guild is Optional." However, going to Quilt Guild is not optional because it is my one guaranteed time per month to get out of the house and not be interrupted by small children for two whole hours.
Guilt, as opposed to Guild, is totally optional. I just finished reading the book Escape, by Carolyn Jessop, who experienced all those horrible things less than thirty miles away from my home town, while I was busy going to school and living in a happy home with good parents and no abuse. I see Polygamist women and children almost every time I go to Walmart. I used to serve at a restaurant, and I got fantastic tips from groups of Polygamist men and non-tips from groups of women. I could feel guilty about all the uncharitable thoughts I had about the stingy women and the way they tip and coif and dress. But what good would that do?
Guilt is optional because it inhibits action. Rather than beat ourselves up about the world's suffering, we need to just do something about the problems we see. So my question is: What should we do about Polygamy? From what I can see most of the abusive and horrible ones who used to live here have gone off to Texas, so they are not really in my circle of immediate influence anymore. Alex and I have been discussing this because he read the book, too. He thinks legalizing Polygamy would help because if the marriages were on the books they couldn't do it to little girls anymore. I think they would just not get marriage licenses. We also want to go put a sign with our phone number by the side of the road so any woman can call us if she wants out. We're just thinking it would get torn down too quickly.
I definitely respect their right to practice their religion even if I don't agree with them. My grievances are as follows:
-If women want a way out, they should be allowed. Police sending them back to the abusers really ticks me off.
-No one should be assigned to marry someone he or she doesn't want to marry. I think it is okay to arrange marriages if both parties are accepting of the spouse and practice. Arranged marriages have a lower divorce rate, but the whole young girl-old man-terror-borderline rape thing really gets my goat.
-Education absolutely needs to be required to at least a high school level. Even home schooling needs some sort of assessment and accountability out there.
-There were many more as I read, but I better not neglect my kids anymore. (Even though guilt is optional. Ha ha.)
So what should we do? Guilt is optional. Action is not. Please discuss.