08 November 2008
Way Over My Head
After the recent Prop. 8 debates, I have been pretty frustrated being compared to a racist in my desire to protect traditional marriage. (Sidenote: Language is so interesting. Depending on the side of the argument you are "protecting marriage" or "limiting rights." Same meaning, wildly different baggage.) I just want to give a few thoughts about why I think the racist argument is so inappropriate. I hope I'm not opening my mouth to "remove all doubt" about my foolishness again.
For me a human is a dual individual made up of two elements, physical and spiritual. There is a physical side and an immortal will which can control the physical body. This is why as a Christian I love Jesus, because I think he did something profoundly awesome for both of the important elements of my being. But that's not what I am going on about in this particular post.
I think that sexuality is more heavily weighted in the immortal will. Race is part of the physical body, determined at birth. Race can not be changed unless you are Michael Jackson. Contrarily, sexuality is discovered by most during adolescence or young adulthood. While certainly the body and the will are intertwined very integrally, in my opinion the will is stronger than the body due to its immortal nature. This is why homosexuals (including an acquaintance of mine) can choose not to act on homosexual desires, thus choosing not to "be" homosexual. Those desires may still exist, but human will can make choices that quell the desires and still achieve fulfillment in life.
I guess this is an answer to my own question from my previous post. I've read much more since then, and I think "chocolate craving" is fundamentally a choice. The choice can definitely be swayed by the body, but at its heart, I believe it is a choice, just as my faith is fundamentally a choice for me. That is why I don't think I am the bigoted equivalent of a racist for asking that gay marriage be defined differently from traditional marriage according to the law.
BTW Har, this post is not directed at you specifically. Your post was well articulated and very polite.